THE REUNION

THE REUNION

For Lovers Learning to Re-Enter Each Other's Orbit

You've been apart. Days. Weeks. Maybe just hours that felt like days. Work travel. Family obligations. Life pulling you in opposite directions. And now you're finally in the same room again.

Most couples make one of two mistakes:

  1. They either jump straight into sex (because that's what "reunion" is supposed to look like).
  2. Or they avoid intimacy entirely (because reconnection feels awkward after disconnection).

This ritual offers a third option: Re-enter each other's presence before you re-enter each other's bodies.Because the most important reunion isn't between genitals. It's between nervous systems that forgot what it feels like to be close.

You'll Need:

- Worship Me Body Play Oil (Forbidden Nectar for gentleness)
- A candle
- Cushions or pillows to sit on
- 20 minutes minimum (don't rush this)
- The willingness to feel awkward at first

The Practice:

STEP 1: THE ARRIVAL

When you're finally together again:

Don't jump into bed.
Don't immediately start touching.
Don't try to pick up where you left off.

Instead, prepare the space:

Dim the lights.
Light a candle.
Create a cushioned area on the floor where you can sit face-to-face.

Tell your partner: "Before anything else, I need to feel you here with me."

STEP 2: THE SITTING

  1. Sit facing each other.
  2. Knees touching. Close enough to feel their breath. Far enough that you're not yet in "touch" space.
  3. Just sit. For 5 minutes. Not talking. Not checking your phone. Not filling the silence. Just breathing in the same room.

Let your nervous systems remember: "Oh. This person. Here. With me. Again." It will feel awkward at first and that's the point. You're letting the awkwardness of separation dissolve before trying to force connection.

STEP 3: THE SYNCHRONISATION

  1. After 5 minutes: Begin breathing together.
  2. Match their inhale. Match their exhale.
  3. Slowly. Let your breath become one rhythm.
  4. This isn't meditation. This isn't "woo woo."
  5. This is two nervous systems learning to regulate together again after being regulated separately.
  6. Continue for 3 minutes.

STEP 4: THE OIL

  • Now reach for the oil. Warm it between your palms while they watch.
  • Then reach forward and place your oil-warmed hands on their shoulders.
  • Not massaging yet. Not moving yet. Just: Hands. Warmth. Contact.
  • Let them feel: *"You're here. I'm here. We're here again."*
  • Hold for 30 seconds. Let the touch say what words can't quite capture.

STEP 5: THE EXPLORATION

Now begin moving. Slow, oil-gliding strokes:

  • Down their arms.
  • Across their collarbone. 
  • Along their neck.

Not sexual touch yet. Not purposeful touch. Reacquaintance touch.

Touch that says:
"I remember this skin."
"I remember how you feel under my hands."
"I remember us."

Take turns. One person receives for 5 minutes while the other explores. Then switch.

STEP 6: THE WORDS

After both of you have touched and been touched: Still sitting face-to-face.

Say three things:

1. "What I missed most while you were gone..."
2. "What I want you to know about how it felt being apart..."
3. "What I need from you now that we're together..."

This isn't a conversation. This is witnessing.

After each person speaks, the other says only: "I hear you." That's it.

No problem-solving.
No fixing.
No "but actually."

Just: I hear you.

STEP 7: THE INVITATION

Now - if both of you want to - move from sitting to lying down together. Let whatever comes next unfold naturally.

Sex.
Sleep.
More touch.
Silence.

The reunion ritual doesn't end with orgasm. It ends when you both feel: "We're back in orbit together."

Why This Matters

Here's what most couples don't understand about separation:

When you're apart - even for just a few days - your nervous systems adapt.

  • You learn to self-regulate.
  • You get used to sleeping alone.
  • You stop expecting another body next to yours.

And when you come back together, your bodies need time to remember how to be close.

Most couples skip that transition. They think reunion should be automatic: "We're together again, so intimacy should just work." But bodies don't work like that. Bodies need re-entry.

THE REUNION TEACHES YOU:

You can't skip the awkward. You have to sit through the "we've been apart and now we have to figure out how to be close again."

  1. Connection isn't automatic. It's earned through presence.
  2. The most important reunion isn't between genitals. 
  3. It's between two nervous systems learning to co-regulate again.
  • THE OIL MAKES SKIN READY FOR TOUCH AGAIN.
  • THE BREATH SYNCHRONISES TWO SEPARATE RHYTHMS.
  • THE SILENCE CLEARS SPACE FOR PRESENCE.
  • BUT WHAT MAKES THIS SACRED?

The willingness to honour that separation changed you both. And reunion isn't about pretending it didn't. It's about consciously choosing to return to each other.

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